Why women date other marrieds?
Speak about a loaded theme that no one wants to chat about, that’s it. Funny thing, extramarital affairs have been going on ever since ancient times. Extramarital relationships can be filled with troubles, cause misery, and other harms. In addition you have to wrap your brain around all the other issues, there’s that truth and sincerety matter, finances, age dissimilarity, religious background, remorse, and on and on. I suppose there will be some strong opinions about some of this.
For the purpose of this post I should classify an affair as a long term, maybe decades long relationship of a sexual nature between two people of whom one or both are married to other wives/husbands, discreet wives dating.
Why do women have extramarital affairs? There are as many reasons as there are man seeking woman for affair. I am sure mainly though it is only the human condition, the need for affection, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and cherished. Here are a several reasons I have run across.
Physically we as humans are all sexual beings. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is pleasant and fun, and sex makes us escape the world for a short period of time. This excitement exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels high enough. Somebody can turn the desire on and off, some are good at controlling it and others are so-so at best. Though we all have it, young and old, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the exhilaration of the chase. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the caring for another individual, for some it is the wish to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the total romance thing. These needs and yearnings can be so strong they rise above the taboos people has erected against married dating. For lots of people the yearnings will overcome their fears and make them risk the anger of not only their relatives, but the public as well. So why, what is the method?
Sex Addicts, probably some of us are. Sex is terribly pleasant, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of physically driven sex addicts and can find away to have sex and not injure your relatives or anybody else? You will need to minimize the jeopardy you are taking. If you have the feeling that a good affair is one that is advantageous to all, then good luck.
No love at home, or no romance. I suppose this is the major cluster, colossal actually. There are many couples whose marriage is over, except they are happy in the manner they exist, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your spouse but there is no romance. Then there are the kids to consider. Your savings are so knotted. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to live jointly besides love and sex.
Physical reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical circumstances that stop them implementing the sex operation, at least not with their spouse. An extra-marital affair occasionally solves the problem while keeping the marriage whole.
Avoidance, sorrowfully this is a frequent groung I fear. One or the other, frequently the gentleman is sexually neglecting his female for a tones of reasons. As a male I truly am grateful to you guys neglecting your wives and making them obtainable to us men of romance, making them “lonely wives” Though I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Then there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not only neglectful, but malevolent.
Something is just omitted in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Maybe its romance that is missing, maybe it is a shortage of love, maybe compassion is not here, could be it is the closeness, could be neglect. Could be we have just grown distantly, our ordinary interests diverged. Maybe it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my life, is contradictory of what you want. Could be I simply don’t know what I want from the marriage anymore. Maybe, just maybe I miss that emotion that when I am with you, it just feels right.
The major reason people give is, they look for the excitement that is missing and so very much longed for.
There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to escape, for financial gain, for payback and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.